Tuesday, August 02, 2005

Who's to blame?

Who do you blame when your kid is a brat?
Pampered and spoiled like a siamese cat.
Blaming the kids is a lie and a shame.
You know exactly who's to blame-
The mother and the father!

Two years ago a priviledged young man brutally attacked a girl from his school. Luckily, the girl survived. On July 13, 2003, the boy, Benjamin White, got into a fight with his brother and proceeded to leave the house. His parents, on their way to dinner, saw him walking through the neighborhood. They stopped, asked him if he needed a ride, but then rescinded the offer(since they were in a two-seat Porsche), and told him to check in with them later if he still needed the ride. That's when White spotted 13 year old Casey Hilmer jogging nearby.

Benjamin snatched Casey off the path, carried her into nearby woods and stabbed her four times in the face, neck, and side. Casey fought White off, and recognized him as a boy who once rode her school bus. White was ordered to spend 10 years in prison for attempted murder and felonious assault.

Benjamin has always been a troubled child with documented neurological and psychiatric problems like Tourette's Syndrome, ADHD, and Bipolar Disorder. His parents have had him under doctor's care for these conditions since fourth grade. As any good parent would do, they loved their child and sought medical help for him throughout the years.

Fast forward to today, two years after the attack. Casey and her parents are suing the White family for $25,000.00 (plus), claiming that the parents are responsible for the attack on their daughter. They allege Mr. and Mrs. White knew Benjamin was dangerous and they should have controlled him, yet they did nothing to stop him from being angry and out in public.

I'm sorry... but that is just messed up! Yes... parents have a responsibility to make sure their child is safe- and that others are safe from him, but how far should it go? These parents did not ignore Benjamin's needed for medical and psychological help, yet they are being sued for negligence.

How far does a parent's responsibility go? Sound off everyone... I wanna know. If parents do everything they can to help their child, yet the child still does something unruly or illegal, should the parents be held responsible?


  • Get the facts! These parents were not only negligent but blatantly disregard their son's need for help. So what that they took him to a doctor if they didn't follow through and allowed the problems to escalate. Parents are responsible for the actions of their minor children. The only thing these parents understand is when it hits them in the wallet!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 9:34 AM  

  • You know I wrote this whole big response but, I really only need to say one thing your an ass.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 12:17 AM  

  • The kid was screwed up. What is not included in the explanation is that Ben's parents knew he had a knife, knew he was capable of violence, and ignored both in order to have dinner at the country club. True help for a kid like him would be military school. Any kid these days can be diagnosed with ADHD, and any other long list of medical abbreviations. He and his parents are at fault. If my kid were in a vulnerable situation, I definately would put him or her before my filet mignon and cocktails.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 11:57 PM  

  • Anonymous,
    You're a dipshit!! Not every parent can control the child's every waking move (oh, wait, but military school.......)! What society do you live in? Hmmm, wonder what job you have. Not every family can afford "MILITARY SCHOOL"!
    Parents have a responsiblity to their children. You have a cure? Society says "There's no rules to raising children". What a crock of shit! One rule after another....any Therapist can tell you that! The best parents can do for their children is be patient. Work with a child everyday. If a doctor suggest medication, lo and behold if you don't get it for the child (that would come back on the parents too, now wouldn't it). Military School?! If anyone is for military in this hometown it's definitely my family. Yet, remember, it's not made for everyone.
    Day by day and patience is what children need, most importantly, they need your time..........not the military's time. YOURS!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 11:46 AM  

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    By Anonymous youth with adhd, at 6:33 AM  

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    By Anonymous youth adhd, at 5:58 AM  

  • Casey is bank rolling now

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 1:06 PM  

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